A friend of mine who happens to be a visual artist taught me a hugely important lesson, many years ago.
He makes his sculptures from various materials, including found objects, but in dealing with a piece of wood or a bone, he made me understand that one should aim to go with the natural shape or flow of the material, using the gift of nature as a stimulus for creating work of enhanced beauty.
This notion could easily be applied to many other aspects of life, including child rearing, teaching, and sustaining connections or relationships.
Human egos sometimes try to superimpose ideas on the features we find around us.
What would happen if we focused more on seeing the potential in attributes provided by nature and aimed to enhance those qualities with our imaginations?