Assumptions are made when people are seen, heard or both. Each person has a repository of stories that is used to assess situations and to make choices.
Can anyone control these narratives other than each individual in his or her personal capacity? Many have tried. Some even dedicate their life’s work to activities of this nature. Success is usually limited in such cases.
Lessons about where to focus one’s attention are difficult to learn when there are too many distractions. A public figure sometimes becomes a target for criticism because complex feelings are triggered amongst observers. It is not usually that person’s duty or responsibility to address the issues raised.
When the person with the triggered feelings is able to observe the matter with detachment, he or she can also reflect about the most effective way to manage his or her own mood.
Our own stories about ourselves are the ones that matter the most.